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Old 03-27-2013, 02:52 PM   #18
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I was thinking this too..I mean that's not something that you just take for the team, lol.
But the thing is, she could be a total ass and walk out on her husband...because of something ~she~ changed her mind about, and never find another decent relationship again. Or maybe she does and the guy is sterile. Or maybe by the time she meets him, she is. I just don't think (in an ideal world) ppl should bust up marriages like that willy nilly. No one is guaranteed children. And when you marry someone 45 years old who doesn't have any, I'm guessing you would have discussed that issue at length and made your peace with the othr person's wishes before you say "I do."
I agree, it is asslike to the other person to switch up on something like that. But it's pretty major and it happens. Maybe to her having children is more important than the relationship. I don't think it's willy nilly..very hard decision. It is unfair to the other person but you gotta look out for yourself first and decide if it's more unfair to you to be in something that you dont want and will regret forever, I don't think that would help the relationship either. This reminds me of Friends where Monica has to break up with Richard who is in love with because she wants kids and he doesn't(although they werent married).
I don't mean to say children are willy nilly or the maternal instinct is willy nilly. But the idea of a 35 y/o woman just going out on a limb hoping to create that perfect story is a little willy nilly. I mean, my husband and I separated when I was 35 and four years later, I'm still not divorced! I'm so glad I wasn't on a time table hoping to remarry and have more kids...

You just never know how something like that will work out.
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