My hair is similar. If I put product on too-wet hair, I get less definition and possible poof.
As a side note, this week my goal is 2nd day hair (one success so far!). I've been having success using curl keeper or aloe Vera gel on dry hair to refresh/ smooth frizzies!
I saw in your signature that you have BB's Mudd....I ordered some last week, can't wait for it to arrive! How do you like it? Do you use it like a gel or curl keeper?