try combing your hair in the shower. or just after. make sure you have a good slip conditioner and give it a few minutes to start to work. this should help with your hair being so big.
what is your routine?

my hair: 3c, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
my hair loves conditioner only styling!
my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.

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