So I have discovered curly girl about 3 years ago. Turns out I was already kinda doing it since I was a teen but with the wrong products, chock full of silicones.
So since then, I have tried to use better conditionners. Suave co, Garnier Ultra Doux (I live in France) Tres semme naturals (recently), and leave ins: Giovanni leave in , and more recently the Shea moisture line.

I have also dyied my hair darker a total of 3 times in 2 years.

Here is the problem: My hair just won't go past shoulder level. and that is being generous. I have a 2 level issue, meaning the top part does not go past my ears and curl up tigher and tigher, when the bottom layer curl more loosely and seem to therefore grow faster (only seem, I think).
It is driving me crazy. I can let them down anymore as it just looks ridiculous.. I don't want to cut them more since I feel the last hair cut (more than a year ago) was what got them to grow like that. and I hate having short curls.

So I dont know.. Maybe there is way to change my routine to fix the issue? I feel like this did not use to be as much an issue before I got a couple hair cuts.. (I did not cut my hair from the age of 14 to 2
I definitely feel like the Shea moisture line is not helping.. I changed from Giovanni cause it felt like i was causing build up if I used it every day but Shea moisture seems to be drying the hell out of my hair. Does not help i have extremely hard water in our new house though,.

Any way, for the first time in years I actually looked at my self and thought.. I should just straighten them.. HELP!