In order for folks to give you useful information, it's good to know your hair properties. The livecurlylive free website is very useful for that--here's the link: Live Curly Live Free - Curly Hair Basics
Once you determine your properties, look for others with hair like yours and see what they use (in signatures.) It's the best place to start.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me