First of all, Minxy, stay strong. Listen to us. Change your number. Change the locks. Get a restraining order. Don't listen to her mind f8cks when she attempts to worm her way back into your life. And she will. Abusers can be extremely manipulative. My sister was with one many years ago, so I know. Always remember how and why you ended up in the ER in a weak moment to further your resolve.
Also, the showering issue is silly. We're all old enough to know what's best for ourselves. However, when you're depressed, taking care of yourself ain't high on the priority list. Not that anyone cares, but I often go one day during the week without showering (usually during the weekend), especially if I don't have to be anywhere. I also washed my hair once a week all winter, though with the weather warming up, I'll increase it to twice a week. It doesn't need washing any more frequently than that.
Fine haired, low density, highly porous curly kinky lady
Last relaxer: Not sure. 3/08 or 4/08
Co-wash: Suave Naturals, HEHH, Trader Joe's Tea Tree Tingle, CJ Daily Fix
Leave-In: KCKT, Giovanni Direct Leave-In, CJ Smoothing Lotion
Stylers: ORS Twist and Loc Gel, KCCC, Ecostyler, SheaMoisture Deep Treatment Masque
Deep Conditioner: DevaCurl Heaven In Hair, CJ Deep Fix