When I first started, my routine was pretty much like yours. I used Pantene 2 in 1 once a week, and never conditioned beyond that. My hair was in a perpetual ponytail, even to sleep. When I found the book and this site, I realized my hair was seriously under conditioned. I learned conditioner was my friend. Now I wear my hair down every day and love it! The change was like night and day. This will be true for your kids hair too! Start there, ditch yourcurrent shampoo, and condition, condition, condition. You may also want to trim quite a bit off the ends since they are probably dry beyond repair. I did, good luck!
2C/ Coarse/ Normal porosity/ SW Florida/ Transitioning to gray
Cleanse: CJ Daily Fix, JC Cleansing Cream, TJ Tea Tree Condish
Condish: JC Too Shea, CJ Curl Rehab (both as RO & LI)
Stylers: UFD CM, CJ PP, JC Spiralicious, Darcy's Cream Gel & Cocoa bean whip