You might try Nature's Gate Lavender and Aloe Conditioner in place of One Condition.
I like the Ultra Defining Gel, but agree that you need to use a lot. Since it doesn't work for you when you don't use a lot, make the most of what you've invested in it, and use it the way it works; otherwise you're going to feel gipped out of the cost. That said, I also like Kiss My Face Upper Management. It's quite a bit cheaper. You don't need as much. It's also cruelty free and vegan. I also like KCCC, but I don't think you want to go there, considering the cost, and KMFUM is a good alternative to that.
I don't know of anything that's like B'Leave In. I've been using it for over four and a half years, and don't intend to stop, as long as I have a choice. I mix it with my gel before applying, and squish them in together.
I can't stand Set It Free, so no suggestions there.
Baby Fine 3B, normal density and elasticity, low porosity
CGing since July 2008