When you detangle, are starting at the ends and working your way UP to the roots? I used to just plow through my hair b4 I found this site. Oils don't give much "slip", but something like KCKT is designed for detangling. You might also look into a Denman brush- works much better for me than a comb.
2C/ Coarse/ Normal porosity/ SW Florida/ Transitioning to gray
Cleanse: CJ Daily Fix, JC Cleansing Cream, TJ Tea Tree Condish
Condish: JC Too Shea, CJ Curl Rehab (both as RO & LI)
Stylers: UFD CM, CJ PP, JC Spiralicious, Darcy's Cream Gel & Cocoa bean whip