The best way to choose ingredients/products is by properties. Here's a link to help you with yours. Live Curly Live Free - Curly Hair Basics
Once you determine your properties, you can look for others with hair like yours and see what they use (in signature.) It's the best place to start.
My hair prefers the more natural products from the online, boutique type companies. I stay away from chemicals, my hair especially doesn't care for polyquats. I use what I call jelly products--gelatinous consistency without the chemicals.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; DM MiraCurls Curling Gelly; UFD Curly Magic; Shescentit LIs; Sevi conditioners; Botanical Spirits Puree, CJ Repair Me