I have to say that sometimes I don't mind the frizz. Usually if I want volume there has to be some frizz. Just as long as its not too crazy looking lol. Also I can relate, it really makes my day when I've been feeling crappy about a bad hair day and someone compliments me on it. I guess I can be my worse critic. Thats the beauty of curls even when you think they look all over the place and messy to someone else they can look amazing. Glad you're embracing it.