Dont worry too much about labels, at the end its about what works for your hair. In the beginning, I think non sulfate cleansers are a safe bet to get started in combo with a gel. Simple. I did the whole cowashing, hated that. After a year full cg my hair is ridiculously healthy and I'm back to 'cones, oils and I just added a sulfate 'poo. Very damaged or dry hair will benefit from the gentler cg products but i have to agree its not about a specific ingredient in and of itself. Many cg products failed despite havig the "best" ingredients. And now I get great results from "bad" ingredients. So experiment, and have fun! Everyone is here to help
Medium/fine texture, high density, normal porosity and elasticity
High humidity/high dews, so no to humectants
Current products: SM C&S and YTCukes 'poo, AOHR, HEHH, LALPS. GF anti humidity hairspray.
Hair loves: protein, scrunching, plopping
Hates: leave-in, raking, aloe, pixie curling