I have been using Nature's Gate Biotin Strengthening condish as a rinse-out, VO5 Strawberries and Cream for co-wash. My styler is usually Herbal Essences Tousle Me Softly or Totally Twisted. Gels do not work well for me. Even the lightest gel makes my hair feel like straw.
I do the Ice Queen method, then I usually squeeze excess water out and then blot with a floursack towel. I scrunch/smooth in my mousse.
I cannot plop or even diffuse or I get frizz.
I also notice that even in the shower after I have squeezed the excess water out I have frizz/random stringy straight strands. I really think that is a sign of damaged hair.