I tried Shea Moisture products early on and they were all heavy, we have slightly different properties but my current faves are in my siggy. I definitely recommend trying products that focus on protein rather than moisture and it will almost certainly help to cut out the CCCCL and try a HARD hold gel like BRHG or that LA Looks one .... I am having good luck with the Volumax Mega gel from Sally's.
Frizz can be caused by build-up, glycerin, too much moisture, drying to roughly or with a regular towel, ..... Unfortunately its all trial and error.