I'm not trying to gang up on you, Curlylifestyle, but I do think Firefox makes an interesting point. Saying "You don't have to wear your afro round, wear it like this instead ... " is just more social pressure to conform to a certain look (including height, in this case).
People do this to women all the time. One of my all-time favorites has to do with makeup. Women are sometimes encouraged to use certain make-up to achieve the "nude look". As if a bare face in and of itself is inherently flawed w/out some sort of cosmetic enhancement from the beauty industry. In the end these things are just more ways to try and convince people they can be "free" by following more rules.