Have you tried conditioner-only styling?
My Hair Loves Conditioner-Only Styling
I've had good luck with with KCKT, Alba Botanica Leave-in, and right now I'm drying my hair after using SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & style milk (I think I'm going to like it!)
The waves are looser but there's no producty feel and it's low-maintenance.
I also second home-made gels like flaxseed or okra.
fine - low porosity - medium density - normal elasticity
Hot & humid tropical climate. Soft water.
Cowash: CJ Daily Fix
Low-poo: CJ Gentle Cleansing Shampoo, Giovanni 2chic BK&AO
RO: JMO Bare detangler, Giovanni SaS, SheScentit Okra
Styler: FSG with CNPF, CJ Pattern Pusha, Volumax Mega, Ouidad Climate Control
PT: IAgirl's gelatine, CJ Repair Me
Experimenting with: reincorporating cones
iherb discount code: CFN646