I agree, don't relax her hair. I'm 19 now, I have hair just like your daughters, maybe a bit curlier. Any who when I was 13 I let my aunt put a relaxer on my hair, because it'd be "easier to deal with" NO my hair became dry, broke off, and looked horrible over time ofcourse. Well I decided no more a little over a year ago, you should make sure she knows her hair is beautiful, my mom constantly told me how ugly mine was and difficult, yes curly hair is a task, but she was blessed with it, no two people have the same hair, so not every routine will work for everyone, the most important thing is to keep her hair moisturized!!! Main thing!! Doesn't matter with what! Just as long as it works for her hair, baby girl has GORGEOUS hair!!!