So to recap you have not peroxide dyed (permanent or demi) for six months, you have not heat styled for six months? So you have roughly three inches of virgin hair and the rest is badly damaged? Is the new growth strong and your normal level of hydration or weak and dryer than usual? If it is weak make an appointment with your dermatologist or family doctor.
Unfortunately hair is dead and cannot be repaired, some hair is just unsalvageable and needs cutting off so they don't catch on and damage healthy new growth. The ends will obviously have had the most heat and peroxide exposure. Porous or damaged hair will not hold colour well, do a semi permanent which is none damaging and leave it for several hours.
Oil will not lighten your virgin roots, it might draw out dye molecules depending which oil and how you use it. Sunlight will unless you cover your hair religiously, raw honey or lemon juice with sunlight, or maybe your hair is naturally changing colour as you mature. There is very little natural oil in many of the Morrocan oil products since argan oil is expensive, it's way down the ingredients list, those products are wall to wall silicones.
I would encourage you to read up on the Curly Girl method in the forum stickies, plus the 'curl chemist' articles on the main NC site. No foaming shampoo will ever moisturise your hair, they are detergents not that different to those in dish soap, their job is to cleanse and many damage the hair whilst they are there. If you can cut back to shampooing once a week or once a fortnight, use dry shampoo or conditioner only wash in between. Ingredients that are beneficial for porous, damaged or colour treated hair include coconut oil, hydrolysed protein, ceramides and panthenol.
Please try to learn to care for and love your natural texture and colour instead of pining over other people's long straight brown hair. Flat ironing is so damaging, you can do irreparable harm in just one session (see Natural Haven blog) especially on coloured hair, without heat protection or the higher temperatures needed to get curly to straight. There is a reason very few ladies have long hair and regularly use a flat iron. Check out the 'Curly Girl before and afters' thread for inspiration.
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG, growing out mechanical and chemical damage = breakage and very high porosity. Past armpit length heading for waist.
Treatments: Komaza protein, Komaza Matani, coconut oil with sugar syrup. Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss ultimate volume
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Boots curl creme, Rockin RInglets
Experimenting with: Mega-Tek, Curl Harmony reviver, Elvive Full Restore 5.
Last edited by Firefox7275; 06-25-2013 at 10:43 PM.