Try Tresemme Naturals Moisture. It's pretty popular, and I like it very much. And you're right that you need a styler, because that will help to hold your curls together and reduce the poof effect. I had a curly cut a couple of weeks ago, and the stylist wanted me to come in just shampooed and conditioned with no other product, and you should have seen my hair. Much more poof than usual, and much less curl definition.
Former longhair, now CG, living in N. California where the fog meets the wind
3a/b, fine, normal porosity/elasticity, high density
Conditioner wash and style, sometimes with a dab of BRHG.