Try Tresemme Naturals Moisture. It's pretty popular, and I like it very much. And you're right that you need a styler, because that will help to hold your curls together and reduce the poof effect. I had a curly cut a couple of weeks ago, and the stylist wanted me to come in just shampooed and conditioned with no other product, and you should have seen my hair. Much more poof than usual, and much less curl definition.
3a/b, F, normal porosity

Wash with either Suave Tropical Coconut, As I Am, or CJ Daily Fix
Condition with STC or Yes to Blueberries and detangle with Denman, rinse very lightly (baptismal rinse)
Add LAL gel, either Sport or Wet Look, scrunch with flour sack towel, and plop
Diffuse 5 minutes, then air dry