you might be overconditioned because of the stylers you are using, or how much no poo you are using, or even your condish itself.
Well, you want to cleanse deeper, maybe use less stylers and keep using no poo and you'll find a good balance.
it's only hair, don't get too worked up, use little rather than less. and relax.
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