I have to add that what your doing now is learning the proper moisture-protein balance for your hair. This requires some trial and error and is completely individualized. It is also a very basic aspect of good haircare so once you figure it out you'll see more consistent good hair days and it will become easier as well. I went back and forth between being overconditioned and overproteined a few times before I learned exactly what balance my hair needs. Don't be discouraged! It is good to add things in increments as a general rule of thumb... so as you up the protein, do it incrementally until you get good results.
fine - low/normal porosity - medium density - normal elasticity.

Currently using:
Cowash: Cure Care diluted with water 1:1
RO: Cure Care, V05 Kiwi Lime
Styler: UFD CM (old formula), FSG + CNPF
PT: IAgirl's gelatine

Experimenting with: no guar hydroxypropyltrimonium chloride, gelatin gel

Recent findings: my hair likes Cure Care diluted with water as a cowash; does NOT like guar h.c.!

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