This is me, too. I also use TN, but recently started using Yes to Carrots as my RO and then some more as a leave in, too. It helped for about a week, but now is back to straw. I also chelated, was better for about 2 days, now back to straw. Same with ACV. I've used every product and technique i can find with no real improvement. I sometimes wonder if it's even possible for me to have soft, moisturized hair. Maybe the softness and shininess I had pre CG was just due to silicones...I may take that route again. I'm so tired of looking/feeling like a scarecrow! Sorry to be such a downer, but let me know if you find something that works!
2C normal/high porosity?, medium/coarse texture, lower density
Cleanse: Pura D'Or every week or two, Yes to Cukes
Conditioner: VO5 Kiwi Lime (LOVE!), Tresemme Naturals, YTC
DT: GVP Conditioning Balm w/ coconut oil
LI: a touch of JCTS
Products: my HG is Tresemme Bouncy Curls Defining Gel mixed with a touch of BRHG over a little flax seed gel, SM Souflee/Milk for 2nd day hair, occasionally Bioterra Curling Creme and Gel
Modified CG since November 2012- finally found what works!