Just tell your family you want your hair to dry faster so you can get on with your day, anyone can relate to that. You don't have to say you want to look like you walked out of Devachan (which we on NC all understand!). There was a thread very recently where a soft hood attachment for a hairdryer was raved about, did you run an advanced search?
Are you clipping so air gets to the underlayers at the back? As far as scrunching too early, that is simply a bad habit to break, avoid mirrors whilst drying if that helps.
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG, growing out mechanical and chemical damage = breakage and very high porosity. Past armpit length heading for waist.
CO-wash: Inecto coconut
Treatments: Komaza Matani, coconut oil, Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss ultimate volume, Inecto argan
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Boots Essentials gel
Experimenting with: going back to basics