Don't be afraid to try gels. If you get crunch, just scrunch it out. Believe me, I want just about as hard a hold as you can get, and while it's drying my hair looks like it's shellacked, but once I scrunch the crunch out you can't tell I have product in my hair. I have curls without the gel, but they will separate and get very floaty.
3a/b, F, normal porosity

I've gotten my routine down to the bare essentials, finally
Wash: Suave Tropical Coconut
Leave-in: Suave Everlasting Sunshine, detangle with Denman brush
Gel: LAL Sport or Wet Look
Scrunch with flour sack towel, plop 10 minutes, air dry
Refresh with either plain water or Suave/water mix