Don't be afraid to try gels. If you get crunch, just scrunch it out. Believe me, I want just about as hard a hold as you can get, and while it's drying my hair looks like it's shellacked, but once I scrunch the crunch out you can't tell I have product in my hair. I have curls without the gel, but they will separate and get very floaty.
3a/b, F, normal porosity

Wash with either Suave Tropical Coconut, As I Am, or CJ Daily Fix
Condition with STC or Yes to Blueberries and detangle with Denman, rinse very lightly (baptismal rinse)
Add LAL gel, either Sport or Wet Look, scrunch with flour sack towel, and plop
Diffuse 5 minutes, then air dry