I was pretty lucky because of the kind of people I grew up around loved my insane curls. It made me pretty confident. Someone once told me I looked like merideth from brave. Lol.
In junior high I never straightened my hair and one of the girls asked if they could straighten it at lunch. I grudgingly agreed and afterwards everyone was telling me how gorgeous it was and telling me I should straighten it in the mornings. I'm pretty sure I just gave them a dirty look and said I'd rather sleep for an hour than spend it on my hair. No one seemed to get that it was insulting.
Another time in jh a boy in two grades above me (which made him intimidating to me) told me on the bus that he thought I had a bird in my hair. I didn't reply and was glad a had that much hair to hide my red face!