I hate this type of feeling. My brother can't seem to get it together, always broke, always needing help, etc etc - and he won't even go back to school - he tried and didn't understand something, threw a fit and didn't continue - so here we are, two years later and he's in the same boat (he had a very good job with a private company but when that company closed its doors, he realized that he did need a degree/certification of some sort to be hire-able in his mid-40s).
I don't have any words of wisdom other than to remind you that your job is to be a friend, not to parent - and if it's making you crazy it's okay to NOT engage. "Let me know what you decide to do" is a perfectly acceptable response.
Modified CG since Dec 2011
Growing out super short cut
High porosity, fine, unknown curl type, somewhere in the 2s at the moment
Mostly low poo
Current rotation includes:
Wash: Yes To Carrots -Condition: Yes to Cucumber, Nature's Gate Jojoba, One C - Stylers: Deva volumizing foam, Deva UDG B'Leave In, Foxy Curls Hi-Def Curl spray