She is very lucky to have a parent who questions some ridiculous idea that "straight is best".

I think you're already doing the right thing by keeping an eye open for pop icons and books featuring people with curly hair. In the end, who knows? She may or may not decide to straighten her hair, but at least you will have exposed her to something other than what society and many of her peers preach.

IMO you can continue to educate her and expose her to your compliments without insisting she embrace her curls. If the issue becomes a tug of war, it may just inspire her to side with the straight-haired folks even more, because she feels controlled. ... It's great that she has you on her side
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