Fellow NY'er and frizzy baby hair sufferer here too. I have found that no matter what I use on the top of my head they will rear their little butts when my hair dries. The only thing I have found that works is to section my hair and add product that way. The downside is I get very little volume from this. As I like my hair to have a bit of volume I add my products upside down and then right side up with a gentle smoothing over the canopy at the end. I also found that when I scrunch it disturbs them and makes them stick up. Also if I over manipulate my hair, game over. For me it was technique not products that allow me some control over them.
"I'm not high maintenance, my hair is."
3b/c mostly fine, high to normal porosity, medium density, low elasticity
Co-Wash- Suave Naturals Coconut, TreSemme Naturals
LowPoo- CJDF, GTTT
RO- AOHR, GVP Conditioning Balm
LI- Giovanni Direct Leave In, SMCH Style Milk
Stylers- KMFUM, AIF, Eco Styler Krystal and Argan Oil, LALSG
Oils- Jojoba, Sweet Almond, Coconut
PT- IAGirl's Gelatin PT
DC- CJCR, Silk Elements