Oh, sorry I didn't connect the dots to realize you were the same person! I tend to kind of suck at remembering usernames w/out some sort of icon that gives me a visual reminder LOL My bad. ... I'm relieved to hear your experimentation with bobby pins is making you feel better. I hope you're giving yourself a break when it comes to the stylist taking things in a new direction. It actually sounds like you BOTH meant well.
Sometimes stylists see so many clients that it's hard to recall exactly what each returning customer's tastes are (especially new ones). BUT each time someone sits in her chair, a stylist should ask for clarification on what her client wants. Tastes change. Memory is faulty. What's cool is you now know exactly what you need to do next time. I bet you won't ever again forget to be specific. You know to volunteer what you want each time you sit down for a cut. Maybe that's the gift at the core of this disaster. (If so, I can certainly relate.)
Call it paranoia, but I've been seeing the same stylist for a while now and yet I still
bring in pictures of what I want each time and talk inches. We're all in this thing together, sister