As I said, co washing is working for me now, and I am protein sensitive so a protein treatment would not be a good idea.
I did some research online about the shea butter though.. and now I believe it is the coconut oil in those same products. There is a much higher occurrence of breakouts from it than the shea butter. I knew it had to be one or the other because those are the only two ingredients I had not used in the past. It's definitely from my hair product because it is isolated to the tops of my ears and nape of my neck. Thanks for the feedback.