I only have a few words for you, and please listen (or read) closely.
You got yourself out of situations that you didn't want to be in. That doesn't make you a loser, that makes you a strong woman who knows what she wants and doesn't want. I actually admire you for this, because a lot of women would just put up with it.
You are awesome.
2c-3a - med width- low porosity - high density - growing out to donate
LOW POO: SM C&H, YTCucs
RO/LI: SM C&H Conditioner, SM C&S Milk, SM Smoothie
PT/DT: gelatin, oil & honey in RO
COLOR: henna, amla & indigo
= wheat, polyquats