I would try sealing or perhaps braiding? I had this same problem and I used to get those dreads by the nape of your neck and it was horrid. My hair is cropped to jaw length and im loving it (shortest I've ever had- its always been LONG. I know you don't want to go that route haha.

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LP: SM RSB
Co-wash: NH IH&T
CO: SM RSB, SM SFC
LI: a CO, KCKT
Sealers: an oil, SM Elixir, JC N&S
DC: SM Masques (the vegan ones), DIY
Stylers: *just CO usually; KCCC, FSG, Aloe
Clarify: ACV, Lemon-Aid

Oils to seal, RO, and/or pre-poo as needed

2c/3a/3b Coarse,High Porosity
CG since 2007