I struggle with this a lot. My mom used corporal punshiment as a discipline tool. Her methods would be called abusive, by today's standards. I promised myself I would never, ever hurt and humiliate my kids in that manner. But I find that sometimes I lose my patience and I then regret spanking my son. It's never in the way my mom hit us, but it's still something I don't want to do. I don't want to lay a finger on my son.
Insert daughter for son and this could have been my post. I rarely spank my child and usually only after she has been warned that "One more time!!!". I did take away her TV time for a few days this week, this worked and it didn't at the same time. She is going through a mean phase - I hope that it is just a 4 year old thing - because I may paint black spots on her and practice my soccer moves if she doesn't!! J/K