Thank you Ladies so much for your replies! I'd been wanting to ask that question for awhile now, thought it was a stupid question and that I would be laughed on out of here, so I didn't. It reminds me that I need to just be patient- something that I tell others often (in regards to exercising/dietary habits) but apparently need to be reminded of often myself with my hair.
I stopped relaxing in Feb. of 2012; got regular trims then cut the last 2-3 inches out on Christmas Eve that year. My hair is a little longer than where it was when I stopped relaxing now, but who knew my relaxed hair could weigh my hair down so much! Looking back at photos, I'm noticing now what I didn't notice then: as I lost more of my relaxed ends, my hair was getting shorter and curlier.