I think some people get a bit shirty with us curlies because they think we're a little self obsessed, because we do check our hair a lot and change it up and mess about with it if we feel it's not working, or its threatening to do something unpleasant! (yes, we are hair-psychic, we know exactly when our hair is loitering with intent!!!) My friend used to say I was going to wear out her mirror!
I also tend to mention my hair a lot, specially if its being awkward that day, so I guess people think I am fishing for compliments or something. Just a case of people getting it wrong.