just curious, how do you use it? and why do you use it that way?

i find my hair is softer if i rake it through my hair, but i have smaller curls.
if i scrunch it in i have chunky curls, but my hair isn't as soft...

what to do? what to do?

ETA:
i had an option for "Eww, you leave that stuff in?!" but it's not showing..and it won't let me add another option..so i guess if you don't leave any in, just let us know...thanks!
3A Once again on the quest for BSL healthy curly hair....