OMG, meegs, I could have written your post myself!! I have SUCH weigh-down issues - I even had my stylist cut some shorter layers in it last time, which did help some. I also find that it looks better (on me) just below shoulder length as opposed to bra strap length.

It's such a fine line for me between enough moisture & being overconditioned. I have found the Rusk Calm Leave In/Detangler has been working very well for me, as long as I only spray it on the lower 1/2 or so of my hair. My hair is highlighted, so it needs some moisture, but if it gets anywhere near my roots, I'm doomed to having a flat hair day
Discovered in 09/2003

2b~~fine texture~~normal porosity (except for highlights, which are high)~~normal elasticity~~medium density

Shampoo: Still use sulfates, but only on roots
Rinse out: Deva One C, JC Too Shea, Original Sprouts Deep Conditioner
Curl Enhancers: KCCC; JC Rocking Ringlets, JC Spiralicious, & Confident Coils
Styler: BRHG (over any and all curl enhancers) - this is the one product that I never change - absolute HG!!