Oh no, don't mess with it when it is dry with your hands. Just spray it and use a microfiber towel to scrunch it. My hair is a frizzy mess when my hands get anywhere near my dry hair Right before it is dry I add a little Awe spray and scrunch with the towel. It really help my hair w/ volume and curl definition.
What do you use for a leave-in? Some can make my hair flat. EMB does not weigh my hair down at all.
And ITA about your Susan comment!
ETA: look below I have pictures now too