There is no one routine that works for everyone. I cannot condition wash every day, or even every other day. My hair gets too overconditioned. Some people condition every day no problem. I can poo once a week, other people poo and their hair is a disaster. I think you just need to experiment and determine what works best for you. When you say your hair is out of control on days you don't poo, what do you mean? Does it feel dry? Is it really soft? Is it limp? Does it feel like there is buildup? Adjustments should be made depending on your answers to these questions.
Type 3a/3b, fine/medium hair, modified CG since 12/2003, Using CHS Curl Keeper, Bioterra gel, Ojon, Elucence