i know what you mean about looking different. when i was relaxing, my hair was fairly long and always looked fabulous. it really made me feel feminine and pretty. now, i have to wear it in a bun or ponytail ALL the time and when its wet the straight ends make it look like crap! i dont feel very good about my appearance now, but i know the end result is completely worth it. i just wish my hair would grow faster than it is currently growing...