hey guys, i had this same problem a while back but now i use FOTE aloe vera gel with aveda universal styling creme for moisture and a bit of honey for hold/shine. if you like the results of your gel but not the crunch, try spraying your hair with a oil/water mixture (1:4 ratio) and that should soften your hair. adding moisture to your gel is key to not having too much crunch.
what kind of gels are you girls using by the way? you guys should check out some coconut oil. spectrum naturals organic coconut oil is a great one to try out.
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