Well for all the reading I've done on this site this thread TOTALLY clarified so many things and summed it all up real nice. THANKS! Now I'm going to try the honey thing too.
3A - shoulder length

Shampoo: Akamuti African Black Soap
(every 3 days)

Daily Cond/Co-Wash: MopTop Daily Conditioner
(daily rinse out fully)

Daily Leave-In: MopTop Leave-It In Conditioner
(daily on wet hair in shower - not too much - before plopping)
Styling: Paul Mitchell Extra Body Sculpting Foam
(daily)