CurlTalk - How to talk to stylist?

Hi,

So I have a combination of 3a/3b hair (very 3b underneath) which is about armpit length. I love having long hair but I have a hard time keeping volume in my hair- I don't want a "round" shape but it get's very deflated in the back and it just doesn't have any life to it. I would love to have a long, cascading mane of bouncy curls but right now I'm just rocking the deflated Michelle Duggar look. The front looks okay- the deflation issue is mostly at the crown of my head.

I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to talk to my stylist about this? I haven't been able to describe it very well to her and I was wondering if anyone had any key words or ways to frame my conversation with her so I can solve this problem?

TIA!

Oh,if it make a difference... right now I'm using Live Clean Moisture Conditioner, Kinky Curly Knot Today and KCCC. I wash with a regular shampoo about once or twice a week (I know, it's not great but I'm a runner and my hair get's too gross if I don't do it).