Lena, I look forward to seeing your pics
Thanks for the compliment too!
Well, maybe my hair appears "soft" because there are waves mixed in w/my curls and waviness/straightness can give the perception that the hair is soft(?). Thing is, my hair is not
always soft LOL.
Also, I think the definition you see could simply be the result of a curl pattern that's fairly consistent throughout all my hair. You're right about ease of running fingers through it when dry, though that disrupts the curl pattern, of course. It's super easy to detangle wet, but there is a TON of it, which can slow the process down a bit.
Frizz is not such a big concern for me, even though it does happen at times. I use clarifying shampoo about once a month and the rest of the time I use sulfate-free shampoo, or "shampoo" with conditioner (that's called "co-washing"). After co-washing I use a leave-in conditioner and usually some some sort of gel or mousse.
Stick around here and continue to ask intelligent questions and you will likely discover a routine that works on your particular hair. It make take some experimentation too. If you have more questions, I'd be happy to answer them