What you don't like about your culture & what you like
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Sunday, October 14, 2007 at 04:13PM
: What you don't like about your culture & what you like
Talking about Middle Eastern countries in general:
I don't like:
People are racist. I don't want to give out examples because it's too racist. But, it could be something such as a stereotype that people of a certain country are unattractive, dirty..etc.
People focus on looks first. The car they drive, the purse they're carrying, the way their hair looks...etc. In some countries like Kuwait guys walking in the street will tell you to go to the hairdresser and fix your eyebrows if they have come out.
I also hate the cat-calls and staring guys do, but mostly in Kuwait. I have seriosuly not witnessed anything like it in any other Arab country. Even if you are absolutely hideous, as long as you are a female, males will flirt. Males, as in 8 year old or 80 yr olds. It doesn't matter. There is no age limit. It also doesn't matter if you are walking with your mother or father. Guys will still tell you you're hot in front of them. Even if you're not. Just as long as you're female.
I hate that people look very fake. I'm not saying I say no to make-up or palstic surgeries, because I certainly don't. But I just hate the totally fake made-up faces. I hate that everyone's lips are reaching their noses from the amount of collagen?silicone? and taht everyone has fake colored eyes, unbeleievably lots of eyemakeup...etc...all for something as simple as a mall.
I hate that a lot o people in the Middle East don't really end up being anything. If the Arab countries stopped exporting razors, all the men would either wax their faces or cut of the hair with a knife or something. Arabs haven't even been able to make razors. Which is also weird because I've heard that in countries such as Syria all products need to be Syrian? So I'm not sure how true that is.
I hate that in places where a lot of people are rich, such as in the Gulf counries, parents would give their kids everything and they'd grow up not being able to do anything, or wanting to do anything, because they're given everything. They will go to the best schools which their parents will pay for, but they'll fail. Yet, they will get great jobs (work with their parents) and become rich. Which is not bad but it's annoying because the kids will be sort of arrogant and not serious about anything they should be serious about when they're kids.
I also hate that people gossip alot and talk alot. Really a lot. Not everywhere, but in many places. It gets really annoying. People are afraid of doing something because "what will people say" instead of "what will God think." Which doesn't make any sense since they're supposedly religious.
What I like:
People usually respect their elders. Even if you're 20 and a 40 yr old woman or man is standing while you're sitting, you should get up for them. You shouldn't talk back to them...etc. Which is annoying at times, but nice (IMO) when you are able to do it.
I like that people are very involved with one another in that they will try to help even if they won't know you, and even if its something trivial. For example, I once was with my younger cousin (7-8 yr old?) who got mad at me and hit my arm. A man my father's age in the grocery stopped him and told him taht it's rude to hit his older sister. To me its a positive thing that people are involved with others and try to help even if they're strangers.
I like that hospitality is very important, and there is lots of stress on things such as never saying anything that will bother any person in your house, even if they scream/yell/talk down..etc on you. I've had times where I wanted to kill my aunts who were staying over at our house. They would start fights, talk down on my mom, start fights with her, tell my parents that my friends aren't good...etc. I really wanted to yell at her many tmes, and I have. But I would like to be able to do I am supposed to do (in my culture) which is be nice, be aptient, let them yell/scream, and not say anything as long as they are in my house.
Even though there are many racist stereotypes, people aren't very sensetive to these subjects. It's ok to ask people from where they are, why they dont look from a certain culture, what religion they are...etc, with no one getting offended. It is even considered friendly conversation.
Please share. What I said might not make sense to others (such as the last example I gave) but its what I like. I want to hear people's likes and dislikes, whatever they may be.