Why are people still under some natural hair illusion?!

I like this thread - it wasn't a rant, it was the truth. Sometimes I get really upset about my hair but NOT because it's natural - I get upset that I ever had a relaxer in the first place! I honestly think that relaxers do residual damage to your follicle that takes awhile to grow out/heal. Call me crazy, but that's what I think! I'd never touch one again.

PS slight guano - Drama on the general hair board!! Don't get me wrong, I'm all for Inclusion... (Involving Marah, obvi, heehee)
Originally Posted by ellepixie
Amen...I'll never touch one again either. These last 8yrs of kinky curls have been wonderful...like high school hair but better! When I think of all the time and money wasted on 20+ yrs of chemicals & salons...hmmm, could've took a cruise with that money.
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Last edited by twirlygranny; 07-24-2010 at 04:43 PM. Reason: left out a word
I'm 16 years old and I was surprised to see my natural hair. I didn't know what to expect but, thanks to this website I know how to take care of it and always have a cute hairstyle. I can wear my hair as a twa or define my curls with a wash and go. I never went back to a relaxer even when the transition was hard in high school & home because I did it for the right reasons. It's liberating and I don't feel like wearing a relaxer anymore so I can please others. They like my hair now though because I knw how to style it.
I'm not going to lie though... Yes my hair was hard to comb, detangle, I have like 2 different textures and my hair is almost straight in the back & everything else that seemed wrong but that was just a learning experince.
My point is, it's all about why you transitioned. If your intentions were to wear your natural hair healthy and free than you'd do everything you can to keep it that way.

Last edited by curly_cassy; 07-24-2010 at 06:15 PM.
don't see posts on other hair boards from relaxed heads saying "I can't take this anymore I'm going natural".
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
hahaha I actually said that and now I'm transitioning!
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don't see posts on other hair boards from relaxed heads saying "I can't take this anymore I'm going natural".
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
hahaha I actually said that and now I'm transitioning!
Originally Posted by honeybrown1976
same here! I got tired of relaxers and crappy stylists cause it was destroying my hair!
I can't wait to finally BC XD
my hair is like a four leaf clover, full of a 4ish mixture of luck!! or in my case..locks (~.^)
don't see posts on other hair boards from relaxed heads saying "I can't take this anymore I'm going natural".
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
hahaha I actually said that and now I'm transitioning!
Originally Posted by honeybrown1976

YES! After years of using the pressing comb and flat iron, I decided to transition to natural for good (my hair was heat damaged so it was straight just doing a wash-n-go)
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Seriously if you don't know how to do your hair go to a professional, that is what they are there for.

If you cannot handle managing your curls you can always straighten them. Nowadays you can get your hair as straight if not straighter with flat iron or blow out then you can with a relaxer.
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I haven't been on here frequently in a while, but for some reason I am still a little surprised that there are still "about to go back to relaxers/I can't take this anymore/ my hair is not they way I thought it would be" posts every other post.

Natural hair is a decision, in my opinion, a mature one. There is enough information out there for you to know that it is not an overnight process.

YES, your hair may be hard to detangle, YES your hair may be "nappier" than you thought, YES, your hair may not grow down to your butt in a year. YES, you may not have big hair or curlynikki curls, or hair that is all the same texture...but it is your hair. Hair that grows out of your head and was made just for you. If you can't deal- then go back to a relaxer or whatever method that makes you happy. But coming on here to get confirmation that you are making the right decision will only get you so far. The ladies are supportive and will make recommendations, but you have to be secure with who you are and happy with your OWN choice. It is easy to get caught up in the "hype" of natural hair now, but know that all those women you see with BAAs or hair down to their waists made a decision to stick with through the ups and downs. Nothing is easy and if you are looking for an easy way, then yes, maybe natural hair is not for you. Life is way too short to be dwelling on your dang hair all day everyday.
[End rant]
Originally Posted by curlylcp

DITTO!!! Gotta love yourself or get a good therapist
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I was on twitter and this girl said "I'm giving up on natural hair. It just wasn't for me."

Statements like that make me sad and laugh at the same time. How is it NOT for you? What's next "My dark skin is NOT for me! I'm going back to skin bleach!"
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- don't let everybody elses long straight weave bum you out. don't let other people's big/long natural hair bum you out either. embrace what you have and rock it with confidence, because that's the only way you'll be happy. and whether you realize it or not you are somebody's influence. show them what it truly means to be confident.
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I was on twitter and this girl said "I'm giving up on natural hair. It just wasn't for me."

Statements like that make me sad and laugh at the same time. How is it NOT for you? What's next "My dark skin is NOT for me! I'm going back to skin bleach!"
Originally Posted by Cali Chik

BWAHAHAAH
I was on twitter and this girl said "I'm giving up on natural hair. It just wasn't for me."

Statements like that make me sad and laugh at the same time. How is it NOT for you? What's next "My dark skin is NOT for me! I'm going back to skin bleach!"
Originally Posted by Cali Chik
That's an idiotic statement and she doesn't even know it. How is hair that grows out of your scalp "not for you" that just sounds so stupid. I don't know what her hair looks like but I think some girls go natural for all the wrong reasons. Maybe because it seems "trendy" and different right now, or they got pissed when they realized they had nappy kinky hair and not luxurious flowing curls.
Honestly, I laugh at people who say things like that, but I see what she is saying. It's just weird to me that we have been straightening our hair for SO many years that it's the norm and wearing your natural hair is something "different." I think a lot of women (myself included) grow up thinking that you are "supposed" to get a relaxer, because we get them at a young age while we are learning how to care for our hair. Some people see a relaxer as regular hair maintenance and no different than washing or conditioning. Oy...
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Honestly, I laugh at people who say things like that, but I see what she is saying. It's just weird to me that we have been straightening our hair for SO many years that it's the norm and wearing your natural hair is something "different." I think a lot of women (myself included) grow up thinking that you are "supposed" to get a relaxer, because we get them at a young age while we are learning how to care for our hair. Some people see a relaxer as regular hair maintenance and no different than washing or conditioning. Oy...
Originally Posted by ellepixie
That is actually mind blowing if you think about it. It's insane. And sad.

I'm so glad we here at naturally curly, know betta.

I mean I don't care relax your hair do you, but everybody needs to realize that natural hair should be the norm not relaxed!
Honestly, I laugh at people who say things like that, but I see what she is saying. It's just weird to me that we have been straightening our hair for SO many years that it's the norm and wearing your natural hair is something "different." I think a lot of women (myself included) grow up thinking that you are "supposed" to get a relaxer, because we get them at a young age while we are learning how to care for our hair. Some people see a relaxer as regular hair maintenance and no different than washing or conditioning. Oy...
Originally Posted by ellepixie
That is actually mind blowing if you think about it. It's insane. And sad.

I'm so glad we here at naturally curly, know betta.

I mean I don't care relax your hair do you, but everybody needs to realize that natural hair should be the norm not relaxed!
Originally Posted by turtles
I agree, although I wouldn't call it sad or insane, I just kinda give it a kanye shrug. I think sites like this promote the mindset that natural hair is awesome...when I found NC (I think I was researching reviews for Kinky Curly), I saw all this beautiful hair that I had never seen before! Just about every woman I knew before who was natural either straightened all the time, or had dreads. After looking at all the awesome hair, I was like ummmm why am I getting a relaxer again?
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Grand Duchess Fierce Freckles, Mistress of the Mighty Snap and Doyenne of the Potent Products Pavane in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
Honestly, I laugh at people who say things like that, but I see what she is saying. It's just weird to me that we have been straightening our hair for SO many years that it's the norm and wearing your natural hair is something "different." I think a lot of women (myself included) grow up thinking that you are "supposed" to get a relaxer, because we get them at a young age while we are learning how to care for our hair. Some people see a relaxer as regular hair maintenance and no different than washing or conditioning. Oy...
Originally Posted by ellepixie
This reminds me of the little girl from "Good Hair." I think she was 4years old, and Chris Rock asked her if his little girl should perm her hair and she said "Yeah" and when he asked why she shrugged and said something like "Because your suppose to." We do grow up thinking we're suppose to relax our hair because we get it done at such a young age we really don't know it's not accepting our natural hair. I never knew why I was continuing to relax my hair. It was automatic and I didn't know how to go about getting rid of it.
I haven't been on here frequently in a while, but for some reason I am still a little surprised that there are still "about to go back to relaxers/I can't take this anymore/ my hair is not they way I thought it would be" posts every other post.

Natural hair is a decision, in my opinion, a mature one. There is enough information out there for you to know that it is not an overnight process.

YES, your hair may be hard to detangle, YES your hair may be "nappier" than you thought, YES, your hair may not grow down to your butt in a year. YES, you may not have big hair or curlynikki curls, or hair that is all the same texture...but it is your hair. Hair that grows out of your head and was made just for you. If you can't deal- then go back to a relaxer or whatever method that makes you happy. But coming on here to get confirmation that you are making the right decision will only get you so far. The ladies are supportive and will make recommendations, but you have to be secure with who you are and happy with your OWN choice. It is easy to get caught up in the "hype" of natural hair now, but know that all those women you see with BAAs or hair down to their waists made a decision to stick with through the ups and downs. Nothing is easy and if you are looking for an easy way, then yes, maybe natural hair is not for you. Life is way too short to be dwelling on your dang hair all day everyday.
[End rant]
Originally Posted by curlylcp
Beautiful and eloquently put, especially the bolded and underlined.

Personally, I only have a problem detangling if I'm using garbage conditioners. If I must use a cheapie, then it has to say it's created for "color/damaged hair". These are more moisturizing than the others.

Peeps are making it more complicated than it needs to be. If you're not ready or not diggin' what your true texture is (no 3c curls for example), then hop back on the relaxer bandwagon. No one is putting a gun to your head and making you go natural.

Anyways, they have some really nice looking natural hair weaves/wigs these days, so all is not lost if you want to have the look for a short while.
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I haven't been on here frequently in a while, but for some reason I am still a little surprised that there are still "about to go back to relaxers/I can't take this anymore/ my hair is not they way I thought it would be" posts every other post.

Natural hair is a decision, in my opinion, a mature one. There is enough information out there for you to know that it is not an overnight process.

YES, your hair may be hard to detangle, YES your hair may be "nappier" than you thought, YES, your hair may not grow down to your butt in a year. YES, you may not have big hair or curlynikki curls, or hair that is all the same texture...but it is your hair. Hair that grows out of your head and was made just for you. If you can't deal- then go back to a relaxer or whatever method that makes you happy. But coming on here to get confirmation that you are making the right decision will only get you so far. The ladies are supportive and will make recommendations, but you have to be secure with who you are and happy with your OWN choice. It is easy to get caught up in the "hype" of natural hair now, but know that all those women you see with BAAs or hair down to their waists made a decision to stick with through the ups and downs. Nothing is easy and if you are looking for an easy way, then yes, maybe natural hair is not for you. Life is way too short to be dwelling on your dang hair all day everyday.
[End rant]
Originally Posted by curlylcp
amen preacher girl lol

but i'll be ashamed to admit that for a hot second I was considering washing four years of natural growth down the drain to texturize may hair because it was too "difficult". Thank God I turned to the internet instead of the creamy crack and found this website and finally learned how to really care for my hair. It also helped remind me why I went natural in the first place: to be all natural cuz my hair is my own and I shouldn't be ashamed to have to "put up with it". I'd rather let it to what it do and love it just the way it is. And I didn't have to post a "help, my hair is doing so-and-so to make me upset" thread. I just thought maybe I'll just give her all that she needs and became a PJ instead LOL. We've been living happily in curly peace ever since
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