Hi i'm new to the forum but i've been lurking around for the past 6 months or so, so i'm not sure if this topic has been posted yet.
I bet you all know about the ''good hair'' phenomenon in our black/ethinc community.
Most newly transitioners long for that curl hair in the 3's.. we've all had our battles..
But what i found out is that the desire for ''good hair'' isnt only in the black community but its also strong in the white community.
We tend to overlook it b/c most of them get their hair straightend.
It's really sad becaus here i was sitting feeling bad for my self and wishing my hair was more manageable and soft. while my bestfriend (who is white) has beautiful 3b/3c curls but wishes she had bone straight hair.
Both of us were trying to get something we couldnt.
then i realized that we need to start loving our selves and with that self love we might have more patience with our hair.
That was part of the reason we both decided to go natural and stop relaxing our hairs (yes my friend also relaxed her hair)
I always thought that we were the only ones that struggled with beauty issues, but the reality is that others struggle with it too. We were/are all trying to achieve the ultimate beauty that doesnt even exist!
Everyday as i go to school or hang with friends, i can see the damage we are doing to ourselves just to please others and its sad.
I'm sorry, i just felt the need to share this with you guys!