I miss my relaxer

I think that sometimes I miss my relaxer, but I don't think I would probably ever get one again (knock on wood). I don't know??? I miss being able to blow dry and straighten my hair and have other girls think I had weave in because my hair was so long and thick. Some times I think that now I have better knowledge how to take care of my hair...therefore I should just go back and get a relaxer. But, then again I looovvveee my hair right now its so curly, thick and easy to do!! I guess I'm just missing it a little...I guess that's why they call it the creamy crack lmao. But, thanks everyone for all the love and just wanted to see what other people thought and what they had experienced.
happy to say i've never missed my relaxer. my last one was in may 1999. sometimes the grass seems greener and just like with anything being natural just gets you over to the other side. then you have to figure out what's best for you, a low maintenance or high maintenance style, long hair or shorter hair, doing it yourself or relying on a stylist....just some things to think about.
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i'm more relaxed being natural
I never had a relaxer, but I didn't consider myself "natural" due to how much I burned out my hair with the pressing comb, flat-iron, curling iron, crimper, etc. Once I decided to stop burning my hair out and transition to my natural hair (it was heat damaged), I never wanted to go back.

Maybe you should step away from your hair for a bit (braids, wig, etc) to give yourself a cooling off period before making a decision you would regret.
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Some days I miss my relaxer, too. My hair has never been bone straight even with a relaxer, so that's not what I miss about it. I think I miss that when I was relaxed I didn't have to think through what's next, as far as style or products. Some folks seem very comfortable with their natural hair, and I think that's a learning process. I'm in the middle of that process now.

If you want to relax again, then go for it. It's only hair.
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He's helping me to trust in Him.

I'll probably get lots of dirty looks for stating this, but I have a difficult time accepting shrinkage. I was one of those people where when I had a relaxer, my hair was dope as hell; it grew quickly, I could casually cut it above shoulder length and it would grow back out like a weed. My hair reached past bra strap length for a time before I just kept getting it cut shorter and shorter. My hair still grows fast, but like most others, I don't see the length as quickly because of shrinkage, and that can feel discouraging.

However, I know that my hair does that because that's how it's made, and since I was getting relaxers as a little girl and never got to see my true texture, I don't mind. I miss the length and I'm impatient with how long it'll take my hair to get back to that length, but I did not cut off all my hair and find out what does and doesn't work for almost a year and a half just to go back to the "creamy crack". Of course I'm one of those who feels that if it isn't working for you, go ahead and go back to a relaxer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Still though, it is best to look at less permanent solutions first.

Good luck hun

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itsKelCeeEee, that was an excellent response, and an honest look at what does nag at or bother some of us about this natural walk. Shrinkage is not one of the things I readily thought about, and really have only this past week remembered that I used to have shrinkage especially if my hair got wet in the rain prior to having relaxed hair.

I hope the OP can see that although we openly share here, we all are on an individual journey. The blessed part of the journey is that you get to choose which road you desire.
I big chopped on 03/25/2013!!!

Current Products:

Grape Seed Oil
evoo
Herbal Essence HH Conditioner&Shampoo
Aubrey Organics Honey Suckle Rose Conditioner

Hair Type: ???

Walking by faith and not by sight, although sometimes I peek.
He's helping me to trust in Him.

I agree that it's your hair and you can do you. I'm one of those naturals that really sees nothing wrong with people who relax. That's your choice, and I think there are plenty of relaxed heads with beautiful hair. BUT, have you tried to straighten your natural hair? That might be a better option, just because you won't have to keep up with the maintenance of a relaxer. Good straightening techniques can get your hair as shiny and bouncy as a relaxer can. Here's a pic of my natural, straightened hair:


It feels as soft as it looks.
I'll probably get lots of dirty looks for stating this, but I have a difficult time accepting shrinkage. I was one of those people where when I had a relaxer, my hair was dope as hell; it grew quickly, I could casually cut it above shoulder length and it would grow back out like a weed. My hair reached past bra strap length for a time before I just kept getting it cut shorter and shorter. My hair still grows fast, but like most others, I don't see the length as quickly because of shrinkage, and that can feel discouraging.

However, I know that my hair does that because that's how it's made, and since I was getting relaxers as a little girl and never got to see my true texture, I don't mind. I miss the length and I'm impatient with how long it'll take my hair to get back to that length, but I did not cut off all my hair and find out what does and doesn't work for almost a year and a half just to go back to the "creamy crack". Of course I'm one of those who feels that if it isn't working for you, go ahead and go back to a relaxer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Still though, it is best to look at less permanent solutions first.

Good luck hun
Originally Posted by itsKelCeeEee
No dirty looks from me. Lol! It does take some getting used to. I don't mind my shrinkage most of the time, but there are times when I do want to show off my length and show those people who continually call my hair "short."

But to OP, I can understand how you feel. I do get frustrated at times because my hair always takes forever to do. However, I don't really miss the relaxer per se. People always assumed that because my hair was nappy it was tough. Relaxers left a lot of bald spots on my head.

Everyone else has good advice so anything I add would probably only be a repeat.
last relaxer 08/08/09
all natural since 7/30/10


Shrinkage happens.
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I agree that it's your hair and you can do you. I'm one of those naturals that really sees nothing wrong with people who relax. That's your choice, and I think there are plenty of relaxed heads with beautiful hair. BUT, have you tried to straighten your natural hair? That might be a better option, just because you won't have to keep up with the maintenance of a relaxer. Good straightening techniques can get your hair as shiny and bouncy as a relaxer can. Here's a pic of my natural, straightened hair:


It feels as soft as it looks.
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Your hair color is very pretty.

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