Yeah...it can be uncomfortable, but I've done it...so I'm a living witness it can be done. I've walked out of a few salons, when I just had a feeling it wasn't going to be a good experience. I can usually tell when I walk into a salon how it's gonna go down.Before I say what comes after this, I want everyone to know I am NOT blaming NoodleNaps for her bad experience.
I am emphasizing the importance of speaking up, and GETTING UP AND LEAVING, if a stylist will not listen to you, belittles you, or rips your hair out.
I've been to one salon, in the past 3 months and had a very good experience. However, I do NOT play.
Why? Well, because I can do my hair myself...and do a pretty good job. So, if I'm going to pay you to do my hair, you need to "wow" me, but at very least treat me with respect, and be gentle with my hair.
- If you come at me, with a fine-toothed comb, I'm up and out. I don't have time to explain why that won't work. You should know.
- If you attempt to comb my hair dry, I'm up and out. Again, I don't have time to educate you on how to comb natural hair. Now, if you wanna deduct the price of a lesson from my bill...
- If you're rough...as far as your demeanor, or in the way you handle my hair...I'm up and out. Be courteous and friendly. Don't act like my hair is some "bird's nest" you don't wanna tackle.
- If I tell you to "cease and desist", and you ignore and continue...I'm up and out. It's my head, my hair and my decision.
If I came in with healthy hair, I expect to leave with the same level of health. If you think you're going to jack up my hair, and push back my progress, it will remain a thought.
If this was Facebook I would "like" this. Sometimes it's easy for me to say "oh I would do this," but when you're in that position yourself it can be hard to speak up. whenever i used to get in a stylist's chair i felt like a child - like i couldn't speak up because they knew better. but now that i've BC'd and try to take care of my hair, there is no way i will let someone do that to me.
i will try to remember your experience if i get scared to say something.
so sorry this happened to you, girl.
I try to visit a salon, before actually making an appointment. so I can check out the surroundings (I'm looking at what's going on in the chairs, cleanliness, etc.), the stylists and the clientele. I'll ask questions...see how friendly and accomodating they are. If I get a bad vibe, it's over...before it got started.
There have been way too many of these kind of experiences for nappturals. I don't live in DC, or Maryland, or Philly, or Atlanta, so the choices are few and far between.
One bad salon experience like the one we're discussing can set you back months, at least.