Is this too much to ask??

MyHairIsCurly · 07-05-2011, 04:21 PM

All I've been looking for for the past 2 years is a way to kinda stretch my 3c/4a curls and not dry/frizz them out or damage them...but it can't be a long process because I have school work to do
I want it to look like this: http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/...ine=1256102742 (sorry it's small, its not my pic but that's what my curls would look like if they werent so annoying frizzy)
or this: http://images49.fotki.com/v1457/phot...fter030-vi.jpg

this is awefully frustrating and maddening, I'm 15 my mom shouldn't be doing my hair anymore, but since I can't take care of my own hair, my aunt is going to perm my hair in August before school because my hair is always a frizzy ugly mess

I've tried soooo many things and I only get this: http://media.onsugar.com/files/2011/...193.xlarge.jpg

(none of those pics are mine btw) I want to stay natural, but it's like my hair is asking for the perm

subbrock · 07-05-2011, 05:24 PM

- if you have dry frizzy hair, even if your hair is "asking for a perm" (whatever that means) you will just end up with dry permed hair. A relaxer isn't a magic wand.

- of course it's possible to have moisturized non frizzy hair, but that typically means your hair needs to be healthy. Maybe you still need to find the right products for your hair.

- is it possible that you are not a 3c/4a? I know when I first came to this site I was after the perfect product/routine for beautiful lush 3b curls. The only problem? I'm a 3c/4a.

Blame it on the cell phone...

Cerendipity · 07-05-2011, 05:27 PM

That second picture( perfectly coiled) doesn't look like 4a to me but then again I'm no expert.

I get perfectly coiled/curled hair when my hair is perfectly in balance with just the right amount of moisture and protein.

Yeahhhhhboi, Im on my smartphone!!!

MyHairIsCurly · 07-05-2011, 05:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by subbrock

- if you have dry frizzy hair, even if your hair is "asking for a perm" (whatever that means) you will just end up with dry permed hair. A relaxer isn't a magic wand.

- of course it's possible to have moisturized non frizzy hair, but that typically means your hair needs to be healthy. Maybe you still need to find the right products for your hair.

- is it possible that you are not a 3c/4a? I know when I first came to this site I was after the perfect product/routine for beautiful lush 3b curls. The only problem? I'm a 3c/4a.

Blame it on the cell phone...

-my aunt already relaxed my twin sister's hair and it had a very pretty curl pattern, then she used the instyler and her hair has been straight for the past few weeks, and her hair looks very very healthy, but I don't want to do it because I don't know how it could look over time

about the type of hair I have, I'n not 100% sure, but I feel like it's right...cause I have a few coils and some s pattern curls so I figured my hair was in between kinky and curly

Keenylicious · 07-05-2011, 06:46 PM

i dont really have any advicee, other than to try braidouts and twist outs. my braidouts look like a stretched verson of my real curl patter b/c i do big plaits, and i don't comb out the natural pattern before plaiting. i guess you can try that. might work w/ a twistout too.

but i really came in here to say that i now realize that my mother gave me a lot more opportunity to be self autonomous than i realized. how can your aunt MAKE you relax your hair at 15?! like... is she gonna hold you down and apply it or something? i really don't get it...

also... if that's you in your avi, i prefer your hair over those pics you posted...

ETA: i'm sorry if my post comes off as rude, because (for once) i actually dont mean for it to sound that way.

MyHairIsCurly · 07-07-2011, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by keenylicious

i dont really have any advicee, other than to try braidouts and twist outs. my braidouts look like a stretched verson of my real curl patter b/c i do big plaits, and i don't comb out the natural pattern before plaiting. i guess you can try that. might work w/ a twistout too.

but i really came in here to say that i now realize that my mother gave me a lot more opportunity to be self autonomous than i realized. how can your aunt MAKE you relax your hair at 15?! like... is she gonna hold you down and apply it or something? i really don't get it...

also... if that's you in your avi, i prefer your hair over those pics you posted...

ETA: i'm sorry if my post comes off as rude, because (for once) i actually dont mean for it to sound that way.

would the twist out last at least all week so I dont have to re-do it everyday?

my aunt doesn't want me to go to school with my hair looking a mess, and the hair softener (I thought it was a relaxer) worked so well in my twin sister's hair, so she wants to do mine

I WISH that was me in that picture, but it's Hannah Hodson, I like how she has naturally curly hair and the producers of Hawthorne didn't force her to straighten it

FabledBeauty · 07-08-2011, 02:28 PM

The biggest thing I can say.. because I went through a few epic failure hair-dos ( or rather hell no donts ) is to check your regimen. It might be your products.. I know a few of my braid outs ( and I have to deal with DC humidity) went to hell, but I was also not sealing the moisture in my hair correctly. Just recently I found a product but twisted sista or sister that has let my braidout last three days and I havent had to hit it with moisture or anything yet.. its a miracle.. so perhaps trying experimenting a bit more...

say no to the creamy crack though.. you could end up perming it and being even more miserable with regret.. thats what happened to my first transition...